Is he attracted to me?

If you've ever thought to yourself, 'Is he attracted to me?' Then listen up- I am going to be frank with you.

If you are wondering whether a guy 'likes' you or what you can do to make him 'like' you more. Well, the answers are no and nothing. Actually, the answers could be sort of and do his laundry/cooking/homework/pay his bills/and be the easiest booty call in his phone book. But 'sort of' is not good enough and that is what mothers and hookers are for.

Let me explain myself- if you are wondering whether a guy is romantically interested in you, you probably already instinctively know the answer- no. You just KNOW when someone is really attracted to you.. there is no question. You can just fell it- they reciprocate your giggly, giddy feeling and they make extra efforts to see and talk to you. If a man is really attracted to a woman, then he pursues her. If he is not actively pursuing you, then you probably already feel it in your gut that he is just not that into you and you are just looking for someone to give ya a little hope.

Which I won't.

Because it is just plain silly to pine away for a man- not matter how cute he is- that is not crazy about you. I mean really, do you want to look back when you are old and grey and tell your kids how hard you had to work to get daddy to like you? Or do you want to tell them about how cute he was falling all over himself trying to get to you? There is a man out there that will like you enough to act like that. And you ain't gonna find him waiting around for Bozo the undecided.

Now, for those of you trying to figure out how to get your man to like you more, I'll give you a few tips. Well, men love ultra feminine women- so be the prettiest version of yourself possible, act super cheerful, and giggle uncontrollably. Okay, maybe not uncontrollably- but enough to be cutesy. Or you can say fuck it- and not tolerate men that do not very obviously appreciate how wonderful you are. BECAUSE if he is not making you feel happy, loved, and attractive- then he is just plain wrong for you. A functional relationship is not one where you constantly try to prove your attractiveness to the other. That is a very sick relationship, and sick relationships tend to trickle their sickness into other aspects of your life.. Until you feel just- sick.

So stop questioning what he is thinking and what YOU can do to better yourself in his eyes- and start looking for what is right for you. And please never ask, 'Is he attracted to me".. ever, ever again.